Domain Change

Hey Everyone. We apologize deeply for the long and silent wait. We hope you forgive and continue to show us love. Having said that we are moving to a different domain very soon.

The site will be up and running in no time so link up at www.ask-ralph.com. We apologize once more.

The right to complain.

    Take a close look at the picture above. Is it me or does the whole write up have a way of making you look at people who complain about what they don't have regardless of already having a little or a whole lot, with a distasteful look? It also happens to you right? It's like there is this little guy in our head that takes control the moment these kind of write ups surface on any social media we belong to. It takes control of our brains and helps us spot out people to lay the judgement it already programmed in our heads for us. To an extent that voice in our head is actually right. I mean a person that has all those things that are listed above has no right to complain about what so ever it is he/she is going through right? such a person should instead keep quiet and settle for what he/she has right?.....well this is where I disagree. I think people who have roofs over their head have a right to complain and ask for a light bulb to go with it. Why? well let me break it down a little more for you...



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Monthly Focus: A Giving Heart

      Hello and good morning everyone, hope you all had a wonderful night. I woke up this morning and my usually oily and bright face felt very dry. I rushed to get ready for work because I kind of slept late due to some extra work I had to do. When I got out of the house to get into my car I discovered why my face felt as dry as it did. The air was filled with thick fog and it only meant one thing, The Harmattan was here to claim it's territory. Well apart from the fog in the air there was something else out there that I noticed, it took me a while to notice but after a while I caught it, it was a scent in the dry breeze. You know that smell of Christmas that gives you the nostalgic feeling of what true Christmas is meant to be like. You know the type that reminds you of how it used to be when you were younger? Yes! Exactly that scent was what I caught in the air. Everyone has been announcing how close Christmas is but it was just this morning I truly felt and perceived the season.


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Happy New Month

    Happy New Month to you and yours. I hope the month of November was everything you wanted it to be. Even more than that I pray that this new month of December brings you lots of joy, laughter, goodwill and favor. I'll give you all a simple advice today....Cherish your Family and loved ones. Often times we neglect one of the best gifts we have been given on this earth and that is the gift of family, friends and Loved ones. I want to urge you all to take some time out of your busy schedules or your different lives to appreciate these people who love you no matter what or who you are. Schedule a visit, call on the phone just to say hi, no matter what just try and keep in touch with these people. You will never know which day would be the last opportunity to see them. If you are holding any grudges, don't just let it go or nurse it. Go for a peaceful confrontation and sort it out with them this December. This is the season of joy and laughter, you cannot have those two things if you are nursing grudges, anger and hatred.

Have a lovely new month people....

Spread the lessons in life

In our everyday life, we encounter individual and different situations that live us with their different lessons. Through the mistakes we make everyday and the outcome of those mistakes we are able to learn from our mistakes...or let me re-phrase that, It is totally up to us to either pick up those lessons and learn from them or to abandon them and never learn from them. Admittedly one of the problems with these lessons is recognizing them in the first place. That is one of the issues but the particular issue on life lessons i'll like to discuss today is on what we do with the lessons we learn everyday.

I think one of the mistakes we make in life is to apply the lessons we learn on only one aspect or area of our life. Mostly the area which we learnt the lesson. That isn't enough, we have to learn to spread the lessons on each and every area of our life.

I'll explain better...




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Dear Ralph: Privacy Issues

The DEAR RALPH section of AskRalph blog is dedicated to real people with real life struggles. Ralph deals with everyday life issues from relationship, marriage, self esteem, Insecurities, Family, Parenting Issues, Fitness, Health and many more. Generally when you need advice or a friend to help you through those troubles you are facing in your life you can AskRalph. Feel free to contact me by using the email form you will see when you CLICK THIS LINK  or writing directly to my emails raphaelsblogg@gmail.com or askralphblog@gmail.com if you have an issues you want me to discuss. I would also want to encourage everyone that reads to drop their comments and inputs on the issues. Feel free to object or support any advice I give and drop your own thoughts. It's all in the best interest of the poster and the AskRalph family as a whole. So lend your advice and support through the comments section. It'll be really helpful to the poster. This is one of the main reasons I opened this blog. If you are reading this then I look forward to your participation. Ralph does not....I repeat DOES NOT have all the answers so your opinion counts a lot.... Alright then, let's do this!



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Adele - Hello

.....and she is at it again! This Lady is truly spectacular in her element. From the first sound till the last in this song, you will be drawn in and soaked into the message she wants to pass across. A true diva of our time. Flawless in 'her' beauty and with a talent that would only be questioned by people of chronic delusion... she is simply wonderful. My People here is the video of "Hello" by Adele!


Find the audio and lyrics below.....




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The Dreaded Monday

Hello and Good morning Everyone! How are you all doing this Monday Morning? As i'm sure most of you are feeling down already or tossing and turning in your bed wondering when Mondays will be annihilated I decided to do this post to maybe help you through your hatred for Mondays....Oh and to also let you know that if by the miracle of whoever or whatever, Mondays where somehow to be removed from the calendar, Tuesdays would be the next hated thing to you.

You know the funny thing about the Picture above is that those that actually rise from their beds by 7:35 are the lucky ones. Yeah you heard that right, If you get to sleep till 7:00 a.m and get to work by 8:00 am or an hour later then count your behind as one of the lucky ones because there are people out here who actually have to work more hours than you do, they get up long before you and get home long after you. However we aren't here to compare who has the most time demanding job.

Personally, I believe that you have two choices to make your Mondays good and enjoyable and if you for any reason feel like there is more than 2 reasons then feel free to highlight it in the comments section but before then, read through mine.

The First Choice you have is the choice of your job: There is a saying that concerns Mondays which I believe in. It suggest that Mondays aren't the problem, your job is the problem. I mean just think about it for a minute. Most people think that it's about the pay but I have a friend who is about to quit on a job that is paying him N800,000 monthly because he is worn out. The job demands too much of his time and he hardly has time for his family talk more of himself. He is constantly worn out and it's beginning to tell on his health. Every month he is about 600k (more or less) richer after expenses and still isn't happy. At this point in his life it's not about the money, it's about the convenience. Now I know he might miss that job if he quits and doesn't find something else to do on time but this goes to show you that the dread on Monday and your job isn't just about the Money you are receiving. I believe it's more about the perfect job that suits your lifestyle. I believe if you had a career where you couldn't be bossed around, worked from home and the pay was even less than the figures I've stated above, chances are you will stick to that job for the rest of your life and look forward to every single Monday and every working hour you had to put in.  It's about the career that suits your lifestyle personally.

The Second Choice you have is the choice of choice:  Yeah! you read that right. It's the choice of choice. This is very important and works hand in hand with the first option but can also work on it's own depending on how much you believe in it. What I mean by this is that no matter what you do, you have a choice over your emotions. Life can throw all sorts of situations towards you, as a matter of fact every single day of your life, life is going to throw all sorts of things towards you. I don't know of a single human being who has gone 24 straight hours of his or her life without encountering a challenge or a problem, no matter how minute (minutiae) it might be. However if you never exercise control over your choice of emotions you will find yourself constantly complaining over every single thing that happens in your life or any small challenge you encounter.
      So how does this relate to Mondays? Well its actually very simple, you can wake up today and decide to continue frowning and nagging everyone around you of how quickly the weekend went by, or you can simply decide to put a smile on your face and make a choice not to complain. You can choose to be happy instead and forget that fact that it's Monday at all. You can choose to keep a positive attitude and see today and every other Monday from a new perspective. You can decide to see Mondays as a bad start to your week and stand the chance of ruining the rest of your weeks. You can also decide to see Mondays as a chance at a new beginning. A chance to start over and do things the right way. The choice of choosing is always yours, what you do with it is left up to you. My advice to you however is this...B+ (Be Positive) it'll take you a long way.

I hope you make the right choice today and not only start you Mondays in the right way but every other day. Make a choice today! Choose to be happy this morning and every other Monday morning. Choose not to complain, instead choose to look forward to a productive week....

The stories behind their stories

You feel you understand it all? You feel you know everything about that person you judge constantly? Well just read this and you might just realize that you might have had it wrong all this while. These are some of the stories behind the stories...




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The bad spot

You guys won't believe this but I drafted this post on the 7th of October last year, just 5 days after starting this blog....crazy stuff! Anyways read through. I refused to edit it though so you might see some errors or it might even seem incomplete.


That road that used to be smooth cracks a little and is ignored by everyone including you, the next week while driving you notice that the ground is cracked a little but its just nothing obvious, the crack gets wider as more cars run across it and it expands more, one morning you are going to work taking your normal route and notice cars slowing down at a particular point, they are all cross the point one after the other at a slower pace than they were as at yesterday. In your mind you are thinking to yourself what the issue might be. You say a short prayer to you God hoping that there wasn't a bad accident. Then on getting there you recognize the spot to be the bad spot that had a little crack about a week ago. The thing is, just like every other thing that has been left alone, it has grown the way it likes. It has expanded far wider than you can imagine.
        Months pass by and as you are driving to dinner with your partner or friend of the opposite sex. Almost subconsciously, you pedal down as you get to that bad spot, spin your wheels out of the area of the hole on the ground that is very deep, one tire sinks into the bad spot but is supported and balanced out by the second tire that is still on the good side of the road. Your car slowly dives in but in a couple of seconds, with slow and controlled throttling,  you are out of it. As you climb out of the spot, you zoom off towards your destination. This particular act becomes second nature to you that you don't think of it as you do it, it just happens naturally to you without you taking note of it and on the days you even notice it you stop to think to yourself even praise yourself as a very good driver to be able to avoid those pot holes the way you do. The problem is that as time passes by, the hole still stretches wider and deeper until it covers the good part of the road that supports your second tires each time you cross the bad spot. However you do not notice this until the next time you have to take that route....


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Morning Coffee

  *sips tea*...mmmm..tastes so freaking good. Good morning Fam! How is everyone doing today? Hope everyone is doing great and is prepared for the new day. I want to thank every single person that took out time to read and to comment on my blog post yesterday, I swear you guys amaze me with the kind of love you throw my way. I just really hope i'm able to reciprocate when the time comes. You all are so wonderful and I pray for more and more blessings each and every day for every single one of you. I am really grateful to you all. Both those that read and didn't comment but felt some sympathy and to those who took their time to let me know how much they feel my pain. Thanks everyone....

Well...Let's gulp down this coffee before it gets cold!


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Back From the Other Side

      I swear I have started this post like a million times over without knowing what to type. Day after day I have place my fingers on these keyboards that were once familiar to me but right now they seem so strange that my thoughts fade right away the moment I make contact with them. I have been away for a Month and some days but it feels like I've been gone for ages. I have been gone for a while but not without reason. I ask for forgiveness with all sincerity and offer my explanation. Hopefully you guys can understand why I had to leave...



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Dear Ralph: Do I give her a chance or not

The famous DEAR RALPH section of AskRalph blog is dedicated to real people with real life struggles. Ralph deals with everyday life issues from relationship, marriage, self esteem, Insecurities, Family, Parenting Issues, Fitness, Health and many more. Generally when you need advice or a friend to help you through those troubles you are facing in your life you can AskRalph. Feel free to contact me by using the email form you will see when you CLICK THIS LINK  or writing directly to my emails raphaelsblogg@gmail.com or askralphblog@gmail.com if you have an issues you want me to discuss. I would also want to encourage everyone that reads to drop their comments and inputs on the issues. Feel free to object or support any advice I give and drop your own thoughts. It's all in the best interest of the poster and the AskRalph family as a whole. So lend your advice and support through the comments section. It'll be really helpful to the poster. This is one of the main reasons I opened this blog. If you are reading this then I look forward to your participation. Ralph does not....I repeat DOES NOT have all the answers so your opinion counts a lot.... Alright then, let's do this!



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Morning Coffee

  Hello and Good morning to you all. It's been  while since I came on this space. I hope everyone is doing okay. I had to put this post under the morning coffee column because I had already missed the window to wish you guys a happy new month on the first of this month. However this is still kind of a Happy new month message.

It's been tough, it really has been. I've been through a lot these past weeks, a whole lot more than I actually care to share. I guess the bad and negatives around us would keep coming up but it's up to us to look to the good and positives for the motivation we need. I just want to say that no matter where you are, no matter what you are doing, no matter who you are, you are going to be okay. Things are going to go your way and if they aren't already going your way it would only be a matter of time before they do.

I wish you all a Happy new Month. I hope for the best for all of you this month and always. Have a lovely day...

Dear Ralph: My in-laws control my husband too much

The famous DEAR RALPH section of AskRalph blog is dedicated to real people with real life struggles. Ralph deals with everyday life issues from relationship, marriage, self esteem, Insecurities, Family, Parenting Issues, Fitness, Health and many more. Generally when you need advice or a friend to help you through those troubles you are facing in your life you can AskRalph. Feel free to contact me by using the email form you will see when you CLICK THIS LINK  or writing directly to my emails raphaelsblogg@gmail.com or askralphblog@gmail.com if you have an issues you want me to discuss. I would also want to encourage everyone that reads to drop their comments and inputs on the issues. Feel free to object or support any advice I give and drop your own thoughts. It's all in the best interest of the poster and the AskRalph family as a whole. So lend your advice and support through the comments section. It'll be really helpful to the poster. This is one of the main reasons I opened this blog. If you are reading this then I look forward to your participation. Ralph does not....I repeat DOES NOT have all the answers so your opinion counts a lot.... Alright then, let's do this!


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Morning Coffee

Top of the Morning to you and yours! How is everyone doing this beautiful Friday Morning? Hope you guys are getting ready to go crazy this evening. You know we don't miss out on any Friday night groove over here at AskRalph family. So hurry up and finish up your work on time, sleep early and if possible in the afternoon so that you can wake up revitalized and ready for the evening. That way you won't take all the stress from work into the fun time you are meant to be having this evening.


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Dear Ralph: Should I date him or follow my heart

The famous DEAR RALPH section of AskRalph blog is dedicated to real people with real life struggles. Ralph deals with everyday life issues from relationship, marriage, self esteem, Insecurities, Family, Parenting Issues, Fitness, Health and many more. Generally when you need advice or a friend to help you through those troubles you are facing in your life you can AskRalph. Feel free to contact me by using the email form you will see when you CLICK THIS LINK  or writing directly to my emails raphaelsblogg@gmail.com or askralphblog@gmail.com if you have an issues you want me to discuss. I would also want to encourage everyone that reads to drop their comments and inputs on the issues. Feel free to object or support any advice I give and drop your own thoughts. It's all in the best interest of the poster and the AskRalph family as a whole. So lend your advice and support through the comments section. It'll be really helpful to the poster. This is one of the main reasons I opened this blog. If you are reading this then I look forward to your participation. Ralph does not....I repeat DOES NOT have all the answers so your opinion counts a lot.... Alright then, let's do this!



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Dear Ralph: They only want my body

The famous DEAR RALPH section of AskRalph blog is dedicated to real people with real life struggles. Ralph deals with everyday life issues from relationship, marriage, self esteem, Insecurities, Family, Parenting Issues, Fitness, Health and many more. Generally when you need advice or a friend to help you through those troubles you are facing in your life you can AskRalph. Feel free to contact me by using the email form you will see when you CLICK THIS LINK  or writing directly to my emails raphaelsblogg@gmail.com or askralphblog@gmail.com if you have an issues you want me to discuss. I would also want to encourage everyone that reads to drop their comments and inputs on the issues. Feel free to object or support any advice I give and drop your own thoughts. It's all in the best interest of the poster and the AskRalph family as a whole. So lend your advice and support through the comments section. It'll be really helpful to the poster. This is one of the main reasons I opened this blog. If you are reading this then I look forward to your participation. Ralph does not....I repeat DOES NOT have all the answers so your opinion counts a lot.... Alright then, let's do this!


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Dear Ralph: So Confused

The famous DEAR RALPH section of AskRalph blog is dedicated to real people with real life struggles. Ralph deals with everyday life issues from relationship, marriage, self esteem, Insecurities, Family, Parenting Issues, Fitness, Health and many more. Generally when you need advice or a friend to help you through those troubles you are facing in your life you can AskRalph. Feel free to contact me by using the email form you will see when you CLICK THIS LINK  or writing directly to my emails raphaelsblogg@gmail.com or askralphblog@gmail.com if you have an issues you want me to discuss. I would also want to encourage everyone that reads to drop their comments and inputs on the issues. Feel free to object or support any advice I give and drop your own thoughts. It's all in the best interest of the poster and the AskRalph family as a whole. So lend your advice and support through the comments section. It'll be really helpful to the poster. This is one of the main reasons I opened this blog. If you are reading this then I look forward to your participation. Ralph does not....I repeat DOES NOT have all the answers so your opinion counts a lot.... Alright then, let's do this!




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Morning Coffee

Hello and good morning everyone! Well something interesting actually happened this morning. I turned up to work early, isn't that just great! Even after everything that happened last night I still managed to show up early to work. Boss was a little surprised and I was just happy to disappoint him. Lol.

So it's a new day and there are new opportunities out there. Always remember that it just takes one extra step from where you stopped the last time to record an improvement. So just as the cup above is advising you, get up and attack the day with enthusiasm. You are closer to your goal today than you might actually realize. Do not give up today, do not slow down, instead make an effort to make an improvement today.

Always remember "An inch more is better than nothing more". Keep pushing hard and you will the results of your hustle. Happy Monday!